I was using Namma Metro after a long time and was taking the ride back to Byappanahalli from Trinity. There I saw the stall of ‘Walnut Stores“, I was pleasantly surprised by its presence there. The surprise was not because it was a novel way to shop for groceries, but more so for the parallels, I drew immediately with another such shopping idea from a different country – Korea.
Some time back, not sure how long, I had seen a video that was shared on Whatsapp about how the people taking the subways had a virtual store presented on the walls of the subway platforms. They looked like the regular store racks that displayed food items to scale. And while one is waiting to board the train, they could scan the respective QR codes for the food and grocery items, add them to the cart, pay for it and it gets delivered just after one reaches home.
This was done by TESCO in Korea, which rebranded itself to HomePlus and brought on this novel way to shop to increase their sales no’s without actually opening any new physical stores. They became #1 online store and came a close 2nd in the offline market.
I had thought of this as a very unique and an innovative idea. And someday would find its place in India as well. And this is what was so pleasantly surprising for me.
The Stall was full of little pockets that held staples in handful quantities and a QR code next to them. They mainly displayed staples like rice, dals, pulses, cereals. An added Ah-ahh moment was that they haven’t just displayed staples but actual staples, that one could touch and feel, to gauge its quality before buying. I just smiled to myself thinking that the novel style has arrived in our own country.
The story behind the Walnut stores is detailed in a post by Indiannewz. Their main claim-to-fame is that most of their staples are sourced directly from the farm. They only deal with staples and dry fruits. They have stayed clear of easily perishable fruits and vegetables and no FMCG or packaged food items.
I haven’t yet tried the store but would like to shop once at least, to extend support to a novel idea.
The very first line in “Road less travelled” by M.Scott Peck says this -“life is difficult. This is a great truth, one of the greatest truths”. He cites buddha’s teaching of the ‘Four Noble Truths’ and the first among them being that ‘life is a suffering’. He continues “It is a great truth because once we truly see this truth, we transcend it. Once we truly know that life is difficult – once we truly understand and accept it – then life is no longer difficult. Because once it is accepted, the fact that life is difficult no longer matters.”
I read this way back in College when I probably just entered the 20’s. It was the time of rebelliousness, a time that I felt lonely even amongst a crowd, it was a time of immense self-doubt and self-pity. It was a time when I didn’t understand myself and felt that the world misunderstood me. It was a time of why me? why am the one to go through the pain in life? why am I the one to not find what I was looking for? why am I the one with a million restrictions? why am the one to be not happy?
So when I read the lines of M.Scott Peck. It was like a slap in the face, a wake-up call indeed. From then on, I have told myself, life is not meant to be easy, not with me or not on anyone. It might seem like someone has it easy, but then it is good to remind oneself that today might be the day of reckoning for their struggles.
When we wallow in self-pity, we are solely responsible for the unhappiness we are causing ourselves. The question we need to ask ourselves is if this is difficult life? What we could do about it. Also, look around and see there are people having it worse (even if it is not for similar issues) and just count one’s blessings and appreciate life for the less severity of one’s problems.
Also, we cannot be completely magnanimous with our problems, that we ignore them and brush them under the carpet. They’ll always come back to bite us in the head, but we could do few things to assess our issues and see which path to take.
- First of all, acceptance that our choices have led us to the situations that we find ourselves in.
- Proportioning the blame to all parties involved for the problems and also taking a large portion of it to oneself.
- Worrying less and figuring out ways to get out. Or if not possible to accept them as they are. Here I find the apt usage of the serenity prayer.
God, grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change,Courage to change the things I can,And wisdom to know the difference.
- Finding all other things to do, people around you and little memories to make oneself happy. Being happy is not a default mode. One needs to work on the thoughts that they have, control the ones that debilitate and enhance or build on the happy, peaceful, calm ones.
- Also, accepting that whatever is happening is part of a larger design of life. That you are part of a butterfly effect.
- And if it people that bother you, what could you do, unhappiness begets unhappiness, don’t get sucked into someone else’s mire.
- And if you cannot accept a situation on a principle. Think if can you can circumvent it ? If not, no one is keeping a tab on whether you accept or not. Only you know it. By accepting something if you are able to go past it. Then accept it. Live today to fight tomorrow.
No one wants to be unhappy, yet most us take a second to think to answer when asked ‘are you happy?’ Why can’t we just all say happy even if it is only for the moment. The moment that we feel good that someone’s being concerned about us? little victories are better for the soul than monumental wins.
Another point is, it is good to crib about your situation just for once or twice. Crib about it, take it out of your system and let it go. Find a friend, record yourself cribbing your heart out, eat it out (not a healthy option, but occasionally), dance it out, just wear yourself out. Coz once you have accepted the situation. You are stronger by that minute.
Valentine’s day – A day to celebrate love. They say the purest form of love is the one a mother has for her child ( Fathers too are included but not in this post today). And Today in this platform, I would like to celebrate my Mother.
My Mother has always lived up to her name, The Queen, she is a class act. Be it in her manner of handling herself, be it the way she thinks and executes, be it in celebrations of festivities, be it in gifting generously, be it in her personality. It is never small or forgettable. She has a big heart and a steady head. She definitely needs to be awarded for her lifetime achievement in handling my dad.
She was married at a very young age, as it was a norm back then. No sparks flew between her and my dad, she did not know him as a person, she was not in love with him. But she was stoic and trusted her own father to have taken a wise decision. She went from being a princess to being a pauper’s wife. (my dad went through his struggles and climbed the rungs of hardship to get to a good life). And so her life began with my dad, she soon became a mother of three daughters. Through the routines of her life, she has fought for a better life for all of us. Not accepting an easy option, always looking out for us. She never stopped growing as a person, never stopped sharing and learning, she grew up along with her daughters.
She is an amazing cook. She loves to experiment with food and made our palate accepting of other cuisines. But she wasn’t only stuck to the kitchen or the home. She worked alongside my dad with his business. She was up for any challenge life threw at her. When at one point my dad met with an accident, bed ridden with bad knees, she took up the challenge to run the business and take care of the household – she even learnt to drive a hand geared bike. She was invested deeply in our education, for she thought her daughters should have what she couldn’t have. She believed that education would give us independence, an ability to thrive, to take care of ourselves and others. Not to be at someone else’s mercy. She looked at her daughters as three individuals, not as one. and she would motivate us in separate ways.
When it came to job hunting, she learnt what our skills were and she would read the Times Ascent, to be informed of what’s trending in the job scenario. Let us know which companies are hiring. She pushed my eldest sister to pursue a different path when the civil Engg degree didn’t pan out to a good job. She learnt and listened to what we had to say.
For me, My Mother has been a pillar of support. She always appreciated my straight talking and outgoing manner. She understands when to let her grown up daughters be their own person. She listens to any advice or suggestions I have to make. She treats me with a lot of love, dignity and respect.
My Mother is Strong willed, independent and if only she had opportunities that we have now, she would have shined as a career woman.
My Mother is a major reason for the person I am today. Love you always,
Do share a comment about your inspiring and loving Mothers.